Self Esteem

This is an issue with limited long term results, imo. Yes, children must have confidence in their abilities to create solutions and to apply themselves with effort for results, and to be loved unconditionally. But for children to be deemed wonderful and capable just because the schools and parents tell them so…..don’t think so. I compliment children for specific tasks that are well done, and this is fine. But to give trophies and acclaim for little effort or for just showing up hurts a child’s progress and understanding about life. Children are very bright. They know if they have worked hard and are deserving for rewards….. and are not fooled by false accolades.

But “Millennials” are the example of approaching this subject incorrectly. They have been fashioned if not indoctrinated by an elite culture with a simplistic emphasis on feelings and other subjective so called “truths” that are individual and changeable. I hear the words now such as “classist and racist” which are automatic conclusions, even propaganda, and seen as truth. I say use critical thinking, logic, merit, and reasoning to come to conclusions….back and forth debate between people that isn’t just emotional. Empower children to think, reason, and study for themselves before conclusions are found. In this manner, internal confidence and maturity grow. I guess you can call it self esteem, but work, study, and critical thinking must be integral to this learning process.

Early reading and understanding the written word takes happy effort  that I  describe here.

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Learning Solutions

Children these days are not capable of solving problems, even simple ones. Why is that? Does somebody in the house step in to fix the problem, and without thinking take their burgeoning problem solving abilities away from them? Are children not respected enough to do something of value? Do parents understand the ramification of teaching problem solving early as a precursor to a successful adult life? Does this reflect the sense of  entitlement that many people of all ages have today? Are children so tied up with the various screens that they are not even aware of simple solvable problems?

Are you giving your children responsibilities and chores at home that they are expected to do that build confidence and self reliance? If not, have them take out the trash, put their laundry in the laundry room, sweep the front entry way, make their beds, pick up their toys, put their dishes in the dishwasher, have them feed the cat, dog, fish, turtle, bird. You have your own ideas about how to do this because it is very important.

A wise parent must identify simple problems in their child’s young years that are easily solvable, and then let the child grabble with them to come up with a solution. You will ask, “What can we do here? What do you think we should do? (Don’t come up with any possible solutions.) I don’t have any ideas. Gee, I don’t know. What do you think we should do?” This is great training for life. It will bring confidence, self awareness, a “can do” attitude, maturity….AND THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT.

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A Successful Child!

Developing a successful child to become a wonderful and productive member of society plus becoming a great future husband or wife must be a parent’s ultimate priority!

My ideas include creating an early reader starting a little before 3 years old in a very slow and vocabulary enriching process that creates a fun and meaningful relationship between the two of you (not to mention early and easy reading success.). The abundance of happy chatter focuses a child on his personhood, his observations, and relationship with others and his world. Security and self confidence grow, and an awareness of being alive come forth with lots of back and forth talking which must include a religious understanding that none of us is alone.

Character Building…so important. Teach her that doing the right thing in any situation is very important, helping and thinking of others, respecting everyone including teachers, telling the truth, helping your parents (chores) and people around you, kindness to others, thoughtfulness etc. This is called integrity and a moral life where true happiness resides. Also consider Delayed Gratification (don’t give them everything they want when they want it.) And teach them a work ethic starting with a few simple chores (everyone in a family contributes.)…all of the above plus MANNERS!…..Grandmothers know what all of this means! Check with them if you have questions!

I love the book, I’M OK , YOU’RE OK by Thomas Harris. Read (and it is easy to  understand and to implement) to create an adult/adult relationship with your child as you seriously take what she says as important and worthy of consideration. Observe as her maturity skyrockets. Let her decide about solutions for certain minor problems on her own under your watchful eye to ramp up her ability to make good decisions firmly grounded in a smart and productive way. You have to read the book to understand…very worthy no matter one’s age.

Love unconditionally with consistent emotional support and respect throughout all of their years. Enjoy their amazing friendship. They grow up way too fast!

Feed properly with the very best in medical care. I used natural medicine/homeopathy etc. to great success. Teach them to cook…have a veggie garden!

Lots of play, physical activity, and verbal interplay…limit screen time!

Watch for their natural talents and develop them!

Discipline…If misbehaving, please take them into the other room (so as to not embarrass them in front of others,) and correct in a calm and even voice as you talk to them at their eye level. Let them think about it, and return to the others when they are ready. Repeat if necessary. Be consistent!

Be a great role model!!!

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Eating Vegetables…how to:

You gotta be clever here: Call it fun food. This isn’t punishment. Don’t say, ” sit there and eat your vegetables or else.” Also don’t say veggies are good for you in a tone of voice that infers ” they don’t taste good.” Just serve them delicious food that veggies are a part of .

New stats from Center for Disease Control say only 1 in 10 adults eat enough fruits and veggies, so let’s start early making veggies a normal part of a child’s diet. Adults in adulthood go back to what was “normal” to eat in their childhood.

Grate veggies into spaghetti sauce and cook, so not seen…parmesan cheese over top.

Grated veggies hiding in a meatloaf…beef or turkey

Carrot and ginger soup

Zucchini Fritters on Pinterest

Veggies in stuffing.

Baby peas or baby lima beans with butter

Chopped salads (premade in a bag seems OK)

Cole Slaw

Creamed spinach…stemless spinach, chopped garlic/nutmeg/S&P/sm amt. cream

Persian baby/cocktail cucumbers in oil and vinegar that taste great…very soft

Guacamole on corn/potato chips

Quickly cooked cauliflower or broccoli with cheese sauce…paprika on top

Corn on the cob

Veggie pancakes with chick pea flour

Hash brown potatoes (grated from previously baked ones) with chopped onion and a few colorful chopped bell peppers.

Barbecued veggies from the grill

Roasted veggies in oven with olive oil

Re-fried beans with no additives. Trader Joes has a great canned black bean one. Will yours eat mild salsa? Spanish rice?

Tacos and hamburgers with tomatoes, onion (fried or a slice) and shaved lettuce

Yam French Fries baked in oven…homemade, of course…same for potatoes…hi temp.

Bean soup (dried white  beans, water, carrots, onion, cauliflower, garlic, thyme, S&P blended in pot with hand-held blender)

Tomato soup (sm. can of tomato paste, water, garlic salt or powder, dried basil, S&P, a tsp. of sugar, a tad of cream just at the end, but don’t boil as it will separate)

Vegetable Soup…veggies in beef or chic broth herbs/blend with hand blender

Spilt Pea Soup with carrots and onions/thyme/ S&P

Spiralizer veggies (broccoli stems, carrots) pasta with sauces

Fried Rice with chopped veggies

Veggies on pizza

Tempura?…crunchy and delicious. Chinese food?

Quesadilla with cooked chicken breast (rotisserie chicken from Costco?,) sliced tomatoes, green onions, cilantro, and cheese.

Cous Cous salad with cherry tomatoes, cucumbers, mint, green onions…dressing

Here, eat a tree as you offer a small section of cooked broccoli with a stem.

Add green veggie powder to a recipe…meatloaf etc.?

Have an organic garden out back with lots of fast growing veggies that they will pick and want to eat.

Detox Bath

If a child is emotionally acting out more than usual, put them in a vinegar bath…2 cups of apple cider vinegar in their usual bath water. It balances out their nervous system, and calms them right down. If needed, do this any time during the day, and esp. wonderful at night before bed. This is also very useful if they have colds.

I used to lug in gallons of apple cider vinegar for this purpose, and it made a huge difference in all of our lives. With all of the horrible things children eat, this helps though eliminating food additives, food coloring, and all of the chemicals you can’t read on the ingredients label especially added sugar, is the best solution.

Make all of their food from scratch, so that you know exactly what they are eating. Make ahead to freeze for your convenience. Create a master list of easy and highly nutritious breakfast, lunch, and dinner ideas on google docs for your quick reference. Their bodies are forming now, and each bite counts. I added wheat germ to all pancakes, cookies, and muffin recipes. Also use “pastry” whole wheat flour grind which isn’t as heavy as regular whole wheat flour. Bob’s Red Mill has a wonderful 5 lb. Whole Wheat Pastry Flour bag!

More Fun Questions

As a child’s vocabulary and their expressing themselves help in reading comprehension, here are a few more child friendly questions.

What was or is your favorite children’s story? I loved Charlotte’s Web, but it was a little sad. I also loved Babar the Elephant. My sister loved Winnie the Pooh. How about you?

What is your favorite food? Is pizza our national food? I hope not.

I wish animals could talk, do you? What do you think that they would say?

What food do you like the best at Thanksgiving?

What is your favorite pie?…favorite ice cream?

Do you dream?…Can you remember what they are about?

What is your favorite color? Do you have a dress that color?

Do you feel yourself growing?….nobody does, but you are.

I can’t imagine a family without children. Can you feel how glad we are to have you alive right here, right now, and in our family?….Love you, Good Night







I love talking to my grand children to see what they are thinking about, and to just know them better. My grand daughter loves for me to ask her questions beyond “how was school today?,” so I have thought up a few questions and I encourage you to think up yours. We are usually very relaxed during these conversations when she is my kitty who needs her back scratched.

What are the three most interesting things about you? What do you like doing the most?

If you could be an animal, which one would it be…why?

Would you like to fly like a bird or go underwater like a dolphin?

What is your first memory?

Did you ever believe in giants?

What is your idea of a perfect day?

What is your favorite outdoor game…indoor game?

What was the best thing that happened to you today? Did you help anyone?

Who has been your favorite teacher?…why?

Are you aware of God in your life…how?


Target Your Child’s Natural Talents

As parents, we must identify, acknowledge, inspire, be a catalyst, electrify, and enliven the unique natural gifts in our children. It will become a lifelong pursuit that will not only will play to their natural strengths, but lead to their successful lives. But let’s start early! It won’t be linear or cause and effect, but with many days of unplanned up-and-down-and-over-again self discovery. We must become the archeologists of our children’s true nature and talents, and be very aware. We dig for their precious natural talent treasures like we explore and excavate for diamonds and gold. Please start the process early. Start now to begin this mining for her or his golden God given talents and callings that will have impact not only for her own life, but all who come in contact with her.

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